Then, a system of care was put into place that was supposed to "save" women from the pains of giving birth. At first, the only women using this new system were wealthy. In a short period of time, if the birthing woman didn't have money or private insurance, she was denied access to this new system. This new system began to play on the vanity of women and slowly, over time, more and more women chose to give birth inside this new system of care because it was sold to them as being better and safer than birthing at home alone or with a midwife. After all, only poor, uneducated women would hire a midwife and give birth at home.
Fast forward a little more than 100 years and we have less than 5% of women choosing to birth at home. Most who birth in the new system choose to do so because they believe it is their safest option. Sadly a high percentage of birthing women who experience the system share that doing so has left them feeling emotionally traumatized to varying degrees. When mom is having emotional challenges - regardless of how big or small - her children experience the same. This scenario does not end with a "healthy mother, healthy baby" outcome that so many couples are encouraged to set as their ultimate goal.
The new system put in place a little more than 100 years ago is not only found in a hospital setting. It is also now found in birth centers and a growing number of home birth midwives are bringing it into the birthing woman's home. With that said, I am not against the new system of care. It has some very important elements that will be needed by a very small percentage of birthing women. The trick is discovering how to best intermingle together the birthing options that will be best for each individual birthing woman's unique situation and desired outcome.
Since 2003, I've worked with pregnant, birthing, and breastfeeding women to discover how to best navigate all the birthing options available to women today to create the best possible outcome for each woman's unique situation. I do this by drawing from my own experiences and blending together life coaching, mental/emotional/positive mindset techniques, and my Embracing Birth: wholistic childbirth education book
and online curriculum
created from my own personal experiences with pregnancy, birth and parenting as both a woman and birth insider. (The "w" in wholistic is not a typo. My childbirth education course is designed to include the whole person as well as the whole family. I re-added the "w" to the word wholistic to remind us all that when we only focus on parts of the whole, we leave gaps and oftentimes create bigger issues for all involved.)
We can no longer push all women to give birth in the new system. It's also not good to leave women feeling uneducated and ignorant because they may choose to birth in their homes. It is possible for each woman to create the perfect birth experience for herself without feeling guilt or shame for doing so.