Why are some doulas, birthkeepers, and midwives better than you when it comes to goal setting?
Why do some doulas, birthkeepers, and midwives always seem to be able to reach their goals, while others struggle to make any progress? There are a few different reasons why this is the case. Let’s explore what these are and how you can improve your chances of achieving your goals.
Discipline and determination are probably the two most important factors involved in achieving your goals. Doulas, birthkeepers, and midwives who set goals or have goals set for them, who don’t have the determination or discipline required will not put the effort in or do the work necessary to achieve them.
Is that you?
Achieving your goals isn’t always easy even with discipline and determination. If you want to reach your full potential, you need to be willing to put in the necessary effort and work. If you aren’t willing to put in the effort and put yourself out there, success is not likely.
Doulas, birthkeepers, and midwives with a strong will to succeed and strong ambition are usually successful in achieving the goals they set for themselves. Conversely, having a bad attitude and poor self-control stops others from achieving the results they desire.
Honestly assess where your personal level of discipline and determination lie when it comes to the goals you are setting for yourself. Are you setting goals that you really have the desire to achieve?
Structural integrity matters, even with goals
goals must be well-structured. Structuring bigger goals as a
series of smaller steps or mini-goals and working to achieve them at a
steady pace will build up your confidence and work ethic. When you try
to do too much too soon, you risk burnout and failure.
are not structured well, it will be tough to make the necessary
decisions and take the necessary actions to achieve them. It will be
difficult to know what the right course of action is. You can also become
so overwhelmed by the pressures of reaching a goal that you give up
before you even start.
Write down your biggest and scariest dream goal. What will it take you to get there?
How will you keep track of the big goal and each little action step along the way?
CLICK HERE to see how I do it and complete the free life balance assessment while you're there.
Fear of success?
There are many reasons why doulas, birthkeepers, and midwives procrastinate and put off important tasks or work towards achieving goals. But while some of those reasons are easy to identify and resolve, others can be more complicated to solve.
Fear of success is one of the latter.
of success is one of the most common fears that many doulas, birthkeepers, and midwives have. We’ve
all heard the quote that “fear defeats more people than failure ever
will”, and while this is true, it doesn’t make overcoming fear any
easier. Of the most common fears - fear of success - is far less
discussed than fears surrounding failure.
fear of success is a legitimate, real issue. Many doulas, birthkeepers, and midwives are afraid to
succeed in achieving goals, and for good reason. It’s no secret that
success can be scary because it’s a new place that you’ve never been
before, and you don’t know what the rules are or how to navigate.
more successful you are, the more visible you become to everyone around
you. The higher you climb, the more other doulas, birthkeepers, and midwives might want to take a shot at
bringing you down.
Oola, we call things like fear a blocker. This is because it blocks you
from doing what you really do desire to do. The fear that takes root in
your thoughts convincing you that you “can't” is only mind-based. It's
often destructive to your progress, but it can be overcome.
Never let fear rob you of living the life you were destined for and deserve. Make plans to overcome your fears by taking small but definite steps forward. Take action to overcome your fears.
Fear of failure?
the other hand, another reason doulas, birthkeepers, and midwives are often unsuccessful at
reaching their goals is because they don’t believe they have what it
takes to succeed.
They let their fears of failure prevent them from making any changes. They even going as far as telling themselves that they don’t need to try. There are other negative emotions that inhibit success as well, such as anger and guilt, which are two more Oola Blockers by the way.
important to realize that failure is a part of the process and that
some doulas, birthkeepers, and midwives find it easier to accomplish their goals if they face
failure early on.
Many doulas, birthkeepers, and midwives avoid trying to do things that they are afraid they will fail
at. This fear can prevent you from reaching your full potential and
ironically, actually increases your risk of failure.
you’re afraid of failure, you're much less likely to be resourceful and
flexible. What you’re fearful of will affect the steps you take to
reach your goal. If you’re scared of failing, you’ll not put in the
effort and you’ll be less committed.
The Good News!
Fear is just a feeling.
Fear is a natural emotion that helps you survive. If you’re afraid to
try, it’s simply a way of protecting yourself from an unpleasant
experience. But fear has the power to paralyze you, and it can
hold you back from doing what needs to be done.
easy to waste time worrying about stuff you can’t control. But you
can’t let fear stop you from doing what needs to be done and living the
life you were meant to live. You need to realize that being afraid is
not an option. As long as you work hard, do your best, and don’t let
fear run your life, there really isn’t anything to worry about.
Do it anyway, and you may be pleasantly surprised by how much you enjoy what you’re doing.